Why Blog about Abuse??

[Zada Connaway]

Why?
It has been asked: Why write about such a dark and painful subject in my blog?

I had to think long and hard to come up with an adequate answer.

It is my hope to open a dialogue for those who have their own abuse issues hidden away like dirty little secrets. For myself, I was lucky enough to find others who had suffered what I endured. As a sort of group therapy we discussed our feelings and were able to heal in this manner. We discovered within our little group that we were not unique, nor were we alone.

I have heard it said we are only as sick as the secrets we keep. The sickness within us causes pain and gives a false sense of who we are. It also gives our worlds different shades of right and wrong as well as leading us to make unwise decisions in our lives.

This is part of what I had hoped to illustrate in my novel, Mother’s Journals: parts 1, 2 and 3. At seventeen, Margery leaves her family to go to unknown territory because of her own bad decisions, and must live with the consequences of her actions. Then in desperation, she strikes out at her abuser and must live with those consequences. Her secret has far reaching consequences which estrange her children and they become adults without family ties that go beyond their own little family units.

Every decision we make in life has consequences we must live with. Some are good decisions with happy endings and others are not. Quite often by keeping secrets we harm others around us. Trying to shield loved ones from our truths can back fire. For those who have kept dirty little secrets, it is not too late to begin the healing process. The process is not always painless, but it is worth it.

In order to live full, productive and joyful lives, it is necessary to abandon the false guilt and remorse we have for things that cannot be undone. In this way the anger can also be banished from our lives.

Anger guilt and shame need not color the world we live in. It is our choice to heal or stay sick inside. The consequences of exploring our feelings can be most beneficial to us and those around us. I would hope that those who suffer would be able to heal and feel inner peace and joy.

I wish you all joy and happiness in abundance.

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[Helen Wisocki]

Zada,

I wholeheartedly agree with you that releasing the pain from the past by opening up and discussing it can be helpful in so many ways for both sides of the conversation.

I've read your blogs about abuse, and you have such a wonderful way of telling the details of your own past in a way that anyone can relate to. And by the response from your readers, you've touched many hearts with your words. Keep up the great work!!

Helen